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10 Behaviors that Destroy Relationships
Why do relationships fall apart? Relationships can be complicated and fragile. Small mistakes can destroy yours of love, passion, and trust. But you may not realize what you’re doing wrong until it's too late. So, to help you avoid these behaviors, here are a few common behaviors that can damage any relationship.
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psychology and mental health more accessible to everyone. Thank you so very much
for all of your support. Now, let's continue. Why do relationships fall apart? Relationships are complicated
as they are fragile. Small mistakes can destroy years
of love, passion and trust, but you may not realize
what you're doing wrong. So here are 10 behaviors that
can damage any relationship and may be affecting yours too. Number one, you stonewall your partner. Do you avoid difficult
questions and conversations? This bad habit is called stonewalling. When you stonewall your partner, you're actively avoiding
painful or emotional subjects, but those subjects are important to the health of your relationship. By avoiding difficult conversations, you're harboring unresolved
issues with your partner. It's okay to table a hard
conversation every once in awhile but ignoring an issue
doesn't make it go away. Number two, you're too distracted. Do you give your partner
your undivided attention? Do you text other people
when you're together? Never underestimate the
value of quality time. When you're together, your
partner wants to feel important. They need to know that you
enjoy spending time with them. But if you're distracted, your partner may feel
ignored or neglected, and your relationship may suffer. Number three, you get defensive. Few things are as
important as communication. But what if your partner
tells you something you don't wanna hear? Your partner may, for example, think they're doing all the
work in your relationship. No one likes to hear negative feedback. So how should you react when your partner tells
you something is wrong? Defensiveness can be
destructive to any relationship. When you become defensive, you stop listening to
your partner's concerns. Instead, you try to protect yourself. You may argue with them or turn
the tables on your partner, either way, you're
ignoring the real problem and your partner doesn't feel heard. Number four, you criticize too often. How often do you criticize your partner? Even if you mean well, critical behavior can drive
a wedge in your relationship. Not only is it frustrating
for your partner, excess criticism also
creates a negative dynamic in your relationship. You lose track of why
you love your partner because you're too
focused on their mistakes. Number five, you idealize your partner. Do you put your partner on a pedestal? You love your partner, so you may hold them to a high standard, but idealizing your partner
can damage your relationship. When you idealize your partner, you're projecting your
own preferences onto them. You love your partner for
the person they could be not who they actually are. Number six, you ignore your past. No one is perfect. Every relationship has
bumps and rough patches, but ignoring your troubled past could destroy your relationship. Your history, good and bad, is the reason you are where you are today. It has shaped the way you
feel about your partner and the way your partner feels about you. By ignoring your past, you're overlooking significant
moments in your relationship and rejecting the struggles your relationship has yet to overcome. Number seven, you mislead your partner. Have you ever told your partner
something you didn't mean? Deception can easily
destroy a relationship. Lies and manipulation ruin
the most important thing you and your partner have
built together, trust. When you stop being honest, you give your partner
a reason to doubt you. Honesty isn't always easy and some things are better left unsaid, but you should never try
to deceive your partner, no matter what, this kind of behavior will
destroy your relationship. Number eight, you create competition. In a healthy relationship,
partners don't keep score. They don't care who's
right and who's wrong because competition creates
tension, stress and resentment. If you're always trying to
prove your partner wrong, sooner or later, you're
going to drive them away. Instead, by finding a solution that makes both of you happy
and learning how to compromise, you can create a healthier
relationship in the long run. Number nine, you shame your partner. Do you pick on your partner? Many couples playfully
tease each other in private. But making fun of your partner in public can damage your relationship. Instead of a playful back and forth, you're openly shaming your
partner for their mistakes and placing them in a very
uncomfortable situation. And number 10, you expect too much. Do you get angry when your
partner can't read your mind? You expect your partner
to know what you want and what you're thinking all the time, but that's entirely unfair to them. It's your responsibility to
vocalize the things you want. If you don't express yourself, your partner will never
know anything is wrong. If you expect your
partner to magically know all the answers, your relationship
may slowly fall apart. Do you struggle with any of
these destructive behaviors? Has your partner done things that have damaged your relationship? Tell us about your experiences in the comment section below. Don't forget to click the like button and subscribe to Psych2Go
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In all honesty, me and my partner shared some of these struggles, thankfully though we were able to work through them…. And also it's important to show these things to your partner as well, there might be things you don't see on yourself but they do.
Now I know how toxic that guy was.. Seriously he didn't deserve all the efforts I made in our so called Friendship..
Now what if you feel suspicion that your partner is cheating on you? And what if they are
My sister says nobody thinks like u janine .maybe she is right but I can hope .
Mine is number 2. I get highly anxious in large social settings, or too much visual/ noise settings.
my bpd arse watching this😅😅😅
I can't relate i never been in a relationship
I love this channel
I want to end my relationship so I am here….. he’s not right for meee😔
I have so much improvement to do. These videos teach me so much. And I just pray that I can do things right and better with the one I truly love 🥺❤🤞
My wife and I both struggle with some of these. Hopefully we can work on them together.
This is EXTREMELY helpful! Ask my methods at destroying fail for sum reason. I’ll try these.😁🫵🏼👊🏼👊🏼👊🏼
I needed this. I can’t believe I let him slip away. We were together for 3 amazing years, and then I made a mistake that pushed him away. I’ve apologized countless times, but he refuses to even talk to me. I’m still so in love with him, and it’s tearing me apart. I don’t know what to do anymore
Ty so much for these tips ive been meaning to ask the girl out but i dont wanna ruin it🙏
Some of these for sure! Expect too much, criticize, stonewall, misleading, ignoring the past… these things were alll factors in the downfall of our relationship. It is very sad.
we fight alot now we are def over with hiney moon stage but now its just fighting and its my fault even tho i do my best o not cause fights its hurts cuz i want to be the best partner for her i really do she is my first gf she dated i never had the chance and now i fianly got it i feel like i keep fucking it up iwatching this i noticed she has a few of these traits and i think i do as well but and i here cuz of aonther fight i dont wanna loose her i dont at all writeing this i have tears from the idea of looseing her due to me fucking things up we have out moments where everthing is fine but at the same time the fights are happening more and more i am temepted to get a therepist cuz i feel like i am the problem sorry i needed to rant im scrambing everwhere now cuz i dont want to be a bad partner i more and more i feel like i am
I just broke up with him, he has all these, I feel so pathetic for givng my all and trying to save the relationship several times
Don't date anyone who acts childish
What a peaceful voice 🎀
This moment when you wonder why you have stayed so long with your ex. I recognize her in so many traits mention. So happy to strenghten my selflove. I am sure it will help me to avoid to make the same mistake when dating.
It was inevitable I was weakend by what I found out
I just want time in a relationship to not be ignored cause love is so hard to find when your lonely I like being alone cause some people just annoy me accept for one I guess that's a daddy issue cause I am in love with someone older than me nearly twice my age and near my parents age but he is so hot to me I have my reasons I use to be jealous of my child father how people give him everything he is a guy but I am a female then I fell for his friend
My husband's self hate and self sabotaging behaviors have led to me being very unattractive to him. He doesn't feel like a safe partner bc he has self abandoned.
0:50 😂😂😂😂
I don't find this voice soothing I actually find it a bit creepy and patronising
I want to fix it
I will never do that i want to fix my self i do not want my love to leave
This is what I noticed mostly from the other relationships of both the strangers and my close friends. Usually, the man has to adjust when it comes into understanding his partner. That's not right. A relationship will never workout in the long play when only one person is willing to be understanding. I'm not siding with the man but often at times, from what I've observed, the woman is creating such baseless arguments, just so, she could have his attention.
I love him but I have relationship anxiety 😢
I have done most of these in my relationship, i drove her away from me. Please make video on how to stop these things
O ive definitely done ten a couple times. Imma keep that shit in mind thank you!
Me who realized that my cruel mom has broken every single rule 💔💔💔 I'm so unlucky
She has also abused me alot, and whenever I ask her, she blames her parents 😢
I needed to hear this fr
Thank you so much I just figured out what I have been doing wrong
Bro thinks i have interest in creating meaningful relationships.😂😂😂
I did all 10.. and now she is gone forever. Wish I had watched this when it came out. Maybe things could of been different. Thank you so much.
I am struggling with giving too much criticism to my partner, yet it’s with how they are treating me. How do I communicate the issues I may be having with my partner without over criticism? 2:25
I got some of those traits especially 1,2,3. But I don't realize it sooner. I don't even know since when did i do these things. I ruined my relationship 💔