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How do you find the right meditation? Dr. Kanojia says to find one meditation that works and stick with it. Choosing the right meditation can help with mental health greatly.
In this video, Dr. K explains how to choose a meditation.
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so let's talk a little bit more about meditation how to choose a meditation form just one I feel comfortable with are they're in meditation forms for specific things like in Qi Gong one form is good for your heart one for your liver yeah so okay how do you develop a meditation regimen fantastic question so the first thing to remember is that meditation actually has two words in Sun Swift more than two but let's start with two one is thought or not and one is Dionne skipped my question what question complacent the one about complacent yeah I'm gonna get I'm gonna get to that one it's just I'm trying to link them together so that they like it's like instead of answering them randomly I'm gonna like make a chain so you guys build up understanding and then we get to that one so so how do you choose a meditation how do you know what you're comfortable with it's not that I could skip the question it's a good one it's just I want to lay some foundation which will make it easier to answer so one is good for your your heart one is good for your lungs things like that fine so the first thing to understand is there are two Sun Squidward's for meditation one is da da da which means focus so that Erna is a verb so it's something that you do and the other one is V on which means a state of mind that you achieve the first thing that people get confused about in meditation is they say like oh like the I'm not good at meditating and what do they mean by that what they mean by that is that when I do this particular practice I do not enter the state of mind that everyone keeps talking about I don't feel this inner peace or a no mind state or things like that right and I would bet that niz may not have gotten there today just based on how he was talking so it's this is how I kind of describe it so people say like oh how do I find the right technique of meditation it's the one that gets you to the state of mind so you can sit and you can meditate we can do alternate nostril breathing this is a torn-up actually it's a brand I am but it's a dire enough there's something that I do so while I'm doing this my thoughts can be all over the place but the hope is that when I do this right that the focus of my mind on my breathing will stop any extraneous thoughts and then eventually I'll enter the state of mind where I basically have no thoughts that's the state of Beyond and that takes practice but essentially the kind of meditation technique that you should choose is one that gets you to be on as quickly as possible so if you're doing this and your mind is wandering all over the place that's not the right technique for you practice does make perfect but in my experience if you try different buckets of techniques there are some things that work for someone's cognitive fingerprint better than others so we each have a brain and our brain has different kinds of cortices and some people can focus the attention of their mind through a particular cortex so either through the visual cortex somatosensory cortex audio cortex and so like they're different and when we think about a focused mind there's some stuff that's going on on the front in the frontal lobes but that different people have like so that we got to think about this like we each have a unique face we have unique hands we have unique fingerprints but no one talks about the uniqueness of our mind like no one [ __ ] talks about this blows my mind everyone's mind is different and so everyone's mind has a different regimen of meditation techniques that is going to be ideally suited for them there are 112 meditation techniques out of which one will work relatively easily for in theory every human who has ever been born is alive now or will be born that this covers the whole spectrum of different people's cognitive fingerprints and so you should do different techniques based on what that is for someone who's ADHD I recommend this sound meditation and this is the first one that I teach inside meditation we can't really do it here because it's not loud enough but you go to you go to any kind of loud place where there like people and things going around so like a train station or a cafeteria you close your eyes and you try to listen to as many sounds as you can as rapidly as you can don't engage with the sounds but just have your mind move from thing to thing to thing to thing to thing because the mind of an ADHD person is moving very fast and so the way that you get a mind to calm down is the same way that you get a baby to sit still like you guys know how you get a toddler to like sit the [ __ ] down you have them run around a whole lot if you try to force them into one place they're gonna wriggle and things like that so you just haven't like you exhaust them you take them to a playground then the child will calm down and the ADHD mind is like that and so when like I tear my hair out when I have people who have ADHD and we were like trying all this mindfulness stuff they're trying to like brute force like have their mind set there no no no man like exhaustion move fast move from stimulus to stimulus to stimulus to stimulus I hear someone talking cell phone ringing someone dropped a fort someone dropped something over here someone opened a box there's someone walking by another cellphone laughter crying cell phone clinking that's the way you do it and you push your mind as fast as it can go as many stimuli as you can cover and eventually your mind will slow down and it will calm down right that's the Tecna for people with ADHD hard to do here and so someone says yeah I don't think that would work for you fine there are bunches of other techniques right so maybe try an investigative technique so these are some of my favorites so we did this a couple weeks ago with or like one week ago with the court so take a moment yet in the middle of Ironforge is a great place to do this technique now you guys understand so take a moment to notice your breath in the temperature of your breath what do you think so what do you notice about the temperature of your breath [Music] so where do you feel the temperature so now what I want you to do is follow the coldness right see where that coldness goes do you only feel it in your nose where in your nose the tip of your nose the middle of your nose the top of your nose your sinuses your throat right so now like think about this so now what I want you guys to do so this is actually trickery I'm sorry I've tricked you now I want you to pay attention every time you breathe what happens in your mind as you focus on the temperature of the breath your thoughts cease for a moment and then you analyze it and then thoughts return so as you close your eyes for a moment no thoughts and then after the breath thoughts thoughts no thoughts thoughts no thoughts so you're training yourself to enter the no mind state and now what happens is you start to breathe slowly and then as you start to believe slowly the space of time that you have no thoughts increases right and then some of you dumbasses are getting upset with chat like let chat do what it wants to it's not going to work for everyone the goal here is not to get chat in line just think about that for a second for those of you who are raging its chat like what are you trying to do there what are you hoping to accomplish what do you think happens when you yell at chat does chat listen are they going to be shamed into listening to you know so notice that within yourself that you're like holy [ __ ] this stuff is working and chat why don't you like so forget about them that's what we talked about for the last hour and a half don't worry about other people now practice it notice your rage at chat and then notice how is you rage at chat you feel worse go back to the [ __ ] breath let that thought go let the judgment go let the frustration go just feel the breath where does it go you you right there we go that's your practice so now you express gratitude towards chat because chat has now helped you understand how your mind gets off track how your mind experiences judgment how your mind feels disturbed how you can be in a place of peace from meditating and then rage a chat and then come back right we can't blame chat for what it is do you blame a rain cloud for raining on your parade like you can but chat is chat we can't you know like let's not blame them for being who they are it's not their fault that they're you know confused in Peppe hands and more Peppe hands and kacct I don't even know what that what attacked w-why is there a w lull w I don't even there like some kind of horrible bot that doesn't know what it's saying right can't blame them for that accept them for they who they are okay so I've been practicing the meditation techniques you've showed they've been very therapeutic was wondering where to find a good source for more of these practices I don't think there is a source right so the meditation techniques like I studied for seven years to become a monk and I learned a lot of different techniques from a lot of different masters and it's kind of an amalgamation of like lots of different texts and books so unfortunately I don't have a good source but I'm gonna make one so I'm gonna I'm gonna cover like hopefully one day I'll cover all 112 and then you'll have all of them okay so now we're gonna actually go back to complacent verses content I think was the question right so now we so I okay so if if we were like paying attention to mrs. interview earlier he was talking about being determined right so determination comes from ambition and ambition is like kind of a desire and like a desire is sort of like a goal so generally speaking we think about ourselves as being motivated by goals by the accomplishment of a particular thing and complacency happens when you accomplish that goal and you kind of don't have another goal complacency exists with a goal and achievement oriented mindset like if you just think about the word to be complacent is to like not strive for something right like that's what the word means so if you're calm then you're like you're not striving for something and so it implies that in order to achieve something you have to strive and to strive is to try to achieve a goal and to achieve a goal as a particular outcome orientation and so like if you're content does that mean that you become complacent actually no because you start operating on a completely different axis so you start operating on the axis of action not goal so when I show up on stream I'm not complete like am i complacent no am i content like yeah I'm not not Kentucky I'm not discontent like I show up and I enjoy myself and I have a good time and I'm content with where I am and I'm not trying to achieve anything particular right I mean like I am in the sense that there's someone in front of me and I try to talk to them and I try to answer questions so I'm trying to like do goal like goals in a very microscopic sense but I'm not like trying to achieve anything and so I I think the the way the simple answer is service so complacency is about ambition and goals and service is not I mean service can have goals too but like it's kind of like a different mindset right like I'm here to help and I'm gonna help the best way that I can and I could be content with that because I'm not expecting to change anything I'm just here to help and offer what I am I show up and I say this is what I am how can I help and for some people it's gonna help and for some people that's fine that's contentment but I'm still motivated to do it but I'm just motivated out of service the other word for service is the Dharma right so I do by Dharma so people think that personal ambition is what leads to motivation and once you achieve that ambition and then you are complacent but you can operate from a place of Dharma which is not about personal ambition it can look a lot like personal ambition but it's to serve so I show up and I say like how can I help and then I try my best to like actually do a good job and to grow but that doesn't lead to complacency but it also keeps me content because I'm trying to just do the best job that I can so Dharma is the Sun script word for duty or responsibility and I think rather than thinking about morality in terms of right and wrong I try to live my life according to the anima to my duty or my responsibility and Dharma is kind of like it's it's complicated it's a very complicated thing to figure out your Dharma the other thing about Dharma that I think is really important is that Dharma allows you to tolerate the hard things in life so most of the time we tend to gravitate away from pain and towards pleasure right like I don't want to apply for this job because they could reject me I don't want to ask this girl out because she may say no so the avoidance of pain keeps us from doing a lot of things that's just how human beings work but Dharma sort of says like I don't [ __ ] care how you feel you have to do it because it's important right so like if I'm trying to impress a girl like let's say I'm in medical school and like I'm attracted to someone and I want her to think highly of me and so that's gonna shape all my behaviors in all kinds of weird ways like I'm gonna be like dress a certain way and act a certain way you know if I'm working in the emergency room my favorite example of late and someone comes in with like with a gunshot wound and I have to like get in there and do chest compressions and then after I do chest compressions I'm gonna like walk back to the call room and she's gonna see me and I'm gonna be like disheveled and covered in vomit and blood and I'm gonna look [ __ ] awful and smell awful but I don't [ __ ] care about that because like I had to do the chest compressions like everything all of my personal [ __ ] goes away when I'm doing my enema like it just doesn't matter you just do the thing that you need to do so anonymize is just helps you like helps you do the tough thing because it's more important than you so you guys have to also understand it's like if we think about like why you avoid things in your life due to pain it's paying for you that's what causes you to avoid right it's not paying for other people it's like paying for yourself that causes you to avoid and not do the things that you need to do in fact most of the people that I work with most of the gamers that I work with they will do ten times as much for another human being as they're willing to do for themselves if someone says hey man like I need to clean out my place and move out can you give me a hand they're like absolutely dude I'm there can you clean your own [ __ ] room no [ __ ] way but you'll help someone else clean that room because you're a good person it's [ __ ] weird right so why are you able to do that why is it so easy for you to clean someone's room if they ask for your help but it's so hard to clean your own room it's because that's part of your dogma you have a tournament to that and what gamers don't realize is that they like don't have they don't have a Dharma to themselves you owe this to yourself you owe yourself a life where you get better you owe yourself a life of peace and contentment and happiness and success you owe that to yourself but you're not willing to do it for yourself because you don't realize that you owe yourself that you blame yourself for not having it but that's not what the dynamic person says the dynamic person doesn't say why the [ __ ] haven't you cleaned your room your dynamic person says if you need help I'm there to help you but as a gamer do you help yourself no you [ __ ] blame yourself like [ __ ] you you suck at life why can't you beat Arabic to yourself why can't you be like hey man it looks like you need some help you feel bad about yourself like let me help you out let's go to the grocery store why don't we like eat something healthy so we feel better about ourselves why don't we do some exercise like why don't we like clean up our room a little bit like you owe this to yourself man come on dude like be your own best friend you don't know how to do that that's because you don't realize you have a Dharma to yourself you have learn about other people but you don't understand your Thommo to yourself so Dharma is an incredible source of strength it's an incredible source of like power and tolerance for the negative okay all right so okay so now we get to the next question is the harm of the same as Dow or tau or the way in doubt a chain is it the current life the way of things of nature of universal patterned currents is it connected to the flow State is it indicated by our emotions help us understand the Irma better okay so Parma is the same as doubt so I think that's the same concept at its root it has slightly different manifestations I do think I you know it's been a long time since I've studied the daodejing so I'm not quite sure exactly what the current means but generally I think that all that [ __ ] is the same like it's there all talking about the same stuff so I think like in the Sun script system there's the Ottoman there's karma and I think Dao kind of encapsulates both of those because there's a part that's duty and then there's a part that's like kind of circumstance or environment and and my sense of Dao is that like it's kind of like a combination sort of my meets karma so Carter bar is like circumstances it's the principle of cause and effect so it's like current so you haven't thought about but then there are influences in your life that you don't control which is your karma so I think that's how those are related so when you say of nature of universal pattern currents like that sounds like oprich to me I don't know what that means like I don't I'm not saying that it's not a real thing it's just like sometimes people toss around these like grandiose terms like universal patterns like I don't know what is that I don't know what that means so I use the Sun squits terminology because I think it's a little bit more precise I mean it could be related to that but I just don't I'm not familiar with that terminology so I don't know is it connected to the flow State no so flow state is a state of mind karma is not a state of mind Dharma is about like duty or responsibility or a guide for action Hana is a compass a flow state is a state of being and while Dharma generally speaking allows you to facilitate getting into a state of mind they're like apples and oranges flow state is a state of consciousness it's like sleep wakefulness dreaming flow State right that's the category Dharma is not in that category Dharma is about duty or responsibility it's sort of like a concept flow say to some that happens in your brain and karma is not something that happens in your brain is it indicated by our emotions no Dharma Dharma is what allows you to tolerate negative emotions but emotions are also a product of the mind or the body they're not like Dharma sort of an abstract concept so these are good questions because I don't think we think about like what stuff is in my mind and what stuff is my life and what stuff is outside of my mind what are my emotions what are my thoughts all of this stuff has to be understood like you have to understand like how this person that you are works you have thoughts you have emotions you have flow States you have states of consciousness you have states of beings you have goals what's the relationship between all of this stuff how can we understand how emotions relate to motivation how can we understand how states of mind relate to motivation how can we understand how the anima relates to motivation how can we understand how karma relates to motivation that's the goal of this stream is for us to unpack all of these different things because we don't get taught this stuff it blows my [ __ ] mind we get taught algebra but we don't get taught what the relationship between our mission and life a calling in life our emotions and our mindset we don't get taught that but I think that's really like basic stuff that everyone needs to understand what is the relationship between a calling and your emotions yeah because we don't get taught this stuff infuriates me no wonder no one knows what the [ __ ] they're supposed to do in life like we don't get taught how we work like we get taught you can learn macroeconomics so easily you cannot go outside and learn a definitive way in which your emotions affect your Dharma in which your emotions affect your behavior you you can't they don't teach you that interesting so they did social and emotional skills training for students that accounted for they took a study of 15,000 students half of them got we're given a class called social emotional skills training social emotional skills training is worth 1.1 GPA points more than a whole letter grade they looked at the GPAs of these students who are taught how like social and emotional skills and they get one letter grade higher than the people who are not taught crazy-crazy
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Your dedication is admirable, thank you so much
@healthygamergg did you ever create a compendium of the meditations? Like a flow chart or an "if;then" list of meditations?
So, Dharma can be to yourself as well?
Dharma seems to be similar to the concept in western esotericism of discovering your true will
Please dont yell at me
The “service” part really clicked in for me in a different way. I’m so in the mindset of being of service to others, and have neglected myself for basically as long as I can remember. I still have that mindset and do fulfill it on a lower level, and it’s because I never fully had it sink in that first and foremost, I need to view myself almost as I view others, in that I first and foremost need to be of highest service to myself. Not just looking at the superficial things, but serving myself as highly, if not higher than how I keep wanting to serve others. Addictive tendencies arise because I’m trying to fill a gap that’s there because my deeper needs aren’t being met, and that I’m the one to be of highest service to myself. I am the person that needs my service the most.
I’ve heard it worded in different ways – to be the parent for my inner child, the teacher to the student, etc., but to hear it worded in terms of service, and my life’s mission/ calling really drives it home for me, because there seems to be nothing higher than my life’s purpose of being of service [to others], because the deep connections and experience of mutual evolution are some of the highest of highs I could ever experience. And I haven’t been fulfilling that purpose to any meaningful degree because I’ve neglected being of service to myself. It completely flips my perspective, because I’ve deeply held the perspective of “fixing” myself, having this fixed perspective that I’m incredibly flawed, that I’m not even close to anywhere near my envisioned potential. I also realize, I see the world in this way – something incredibly flawed that needs fixing. Now I will see myself as I would view others that I would want to serve – an unfortunate victim of ignorance and a lack of conscious awareness of how to handle things in the moment that ended up altering my psyche in a harmful way – and that all can be fixed with this newfound awareness. First and foremost, I will serve myself, be my own coach and cheerleader, my own parent, and unconditionally loving and supporting safe space to allow myself to grow, blossom, and evolve, with patience! No more trying to force myself to be fixed as quickly as possible. After all, ultimately time is an illusion, and it is mostly about how effectively, efficiently, and powerfully we execute things in the moment, and we must realize it takes time and repeated experiences, trial and error to come to a place of highest effectiveness and potency, which requires patience and presence. Realize and acknowledge the progression – it is a process, not just black and white, instantaneous from nothing to something – as with *everything*. Everything comes to existence through some process/ progression, and we forget that, seeing only what has manifested to that point in time we are viewing it, since we are limited to the present moment in our ability to perceive the whole.
I am my own #1 “client”, or whatever I associate seeing myself as – because it usually takes some degree of disassociation, to see from a perspective of not being the experiencer, to be the disassociated witness of the experiencer – it helps significantly to see myself as the separate entity that needs my service. And that distance gives me a goal of sorts to reach towards, something measurable to accomplish some measured change in.
Plus, the bit about ADHD & how to handle meditation, drove it home for me as well. I’ve ruminated and gone back and forth with it many times, but this definitive, distilled way of it being said, finally sealed it in for me. Needed to hear all of this, having been conditioned to question my own intuition and knowledge from “authority figures” that didn’t know any better. I’m learning to trust myself and the knowledge I’ve gathered to have, and the strong intuition I’ve always possessed, more and more.
I like cleaning lol i really think it helps adhd brain.
Oohhh so this no mind state is quiet and aware, not shut off and dissociated? I ysed to shut my brain off in highscool all the time, no thoughts, zoning out. Sounded like how I always heard medition being described. Or is it the same, actually?
Still waiting for you to cover all 112 techniques 🙂
I literally cried when he talked about getting enraged with chat being disrespectful. I felt read like a book. I was being judgemental and not actually doing the exercise mentioned. Im always beating myself up for how emotional I am, but is the first time that it actually didnt matter.
How wonderful it is finally to see a well educated man having had education and experience of yoga and Breathwork and guide people!!! I am a yoga teacher and I teach yoga and meditation and Breathwork to others and I feel so sad that sooo many people don’t believe in these practices
if i am understanding this correctly,
we have "chat" in our head
someone overwhelmed is talking back to chat in their head and listening to what it says
someone in focus or meditation is like "ok chat" and has a grin but does what he wants
chat can you verify
I can't find a proper sound meditation for adhd like he described.
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1. The best meditation for you is the one that gets you to dhyana the fastest
2. Focus on yourself, not on others and how what they're doing or not doing is not beneficial or harmful
3. Dharma( 18:11 )- I owe myself a life of peace, happiness, contentment, and success where i get better. I just don't realize i owe that to myself
8:20 to about 10:20 had me laughing so hard. Thank you so much for this Dr. K & team!
Dad and Chat are fighting again
ADHD brain/toddler analogy was golden. I consume a lot of media where the main character has the trope of using the enemies power with the control of the good team (meditation is the key to controlling the thing the overlords use to control us) and usually it is expressed via demons or some form of demonology. I came to this through my own means and had come up with this concept of exercising one’s personal demons rather than exorcising them. I had realized my mind was like a restless toddler (little devil) and needed to be tired out before I could interact with it healthily. Just some fun wordplay but rather profound in my situation.
They dont teach cuz then they cant enslave you in a vicious cycle. You all become precived potenial threat to thier version of world. (may not be threat at all but other materialisticallyy richer sickos dont see it that way)
Hey, was there already published Dr.K's explanation of 112 mentioned meditation techniques collection? If yes please send me a source/link, I would really benefit from it, as many would
Thots, no thots. Thots, no thots.
Thanks Dr K.
22:40 This is why I love this guy. This message and those like it.
Doc is fucking goated holy shit thanks bro
That sound thing.. sort of explains part of my school experience
Alok is probably my favourite human alive ❤ Thank you so much for everything you do
"You can't blame chat, accept them for who they are" my god, that whole interaction was so funny. Struggling not to laugh too loudly at work.
I wonder what's the relationship between dharma and self worth. If I can't devote myself to something meaningful, does that make me less worthy to exist?
Why is Dr. K often yelling? Probably can't hear himself enough in the headphones and damages his voice in the long run
Oh, the one for adhd! This is how i got there the first time. I wish i found DR K 4 years ago
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