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can I just um don't I don't know what to do um um I think I don't know what to say I'm sorry you don't know sometimes what to say and you're basically walking on eggshells sometimes it can shock people if someone says you're having a good day they just expect you to say yes out I'm okay and I'll craft it no I'm not and some people can get taken about oh oh oh and I think there's the fear of saying the wrong thing you know what do I know about Mental Health [Music] I was diagnosed with anorexia nervosa body dysmorphic disorder and obsessive-compulsive disorder back in 2013 and on Friday the 29th of August 2014 I tried to take my own life my name is fakira and I'm sandeep's mom mother is it best friend my best friend their first first tournament session um when he was struggling with his uh with his mental health and uh from there we kind of in a strange way hit it off I think it's love at first sight I like to think I'm Dr will murcott I'm a mental health nurse and Senior lecturer with the open University [Music] for me listening is at the top of the list I think that's the first and most important step if you can active listening repeating back some of the things that they've said to you so that they can feel and realize that they're being helped that first initial conversation that you had with me when my mum and dad sat me down that's when the bubble popped for me that's when I thought at that very moment that someone's noticing how I'm feeling someone is noticing and having an oversight of my pain just asking how you are it was so crucial and so important to me at that moment asked twice you know are you okay yeah I'm all right but no are you really okay and then it's like well no actually I'm not I think there is an urge to try and problem solve and do something and there's almost need some time to be able to fix a problem or a person and sometimes that's not the right thing to do in that situation people aren't necessarily looking for answers people want to be heard one of the things I've learned as a mental or professional is that often if I try and set goals or have my own needs and wants and desires for how somebody should get better they are usually wrong and so from my point of view is is working with a person at their pace and trying to understand how they want to move you can suggest go to your GP you can suggest support groups you can suggest people taking an activity you can go and join in that activity with them so it's they're not feeling an alone with that one size does not fit all you've had a really great idea didn't you the Family Trust yeah cool so what we do we go at the family environment and go to a coffee shop or or just sit there all four of us actually doing our pause and next what's been your positive for the whole month what's been your negative we spend a lot of time insulting each other we just send each other little videos or oh yeah I've been watching that and just little Clips everybody's at the click of a button now you're in my pocket yeah if they're really struggling and at Breaking Point emergency um phone lines out there and Samaritans as well they need to know that there is support out there and it's so hard so hard to see that when you are in a dark place when you're in a dark place yeah one of the scary things is that kind of pressure of what what do I do if because it could be nothing more scary than having somebody talk to you about ending their life harming themselves in some way really the person needs to know as well at what points you'll find something acceptable or unacceptable and then have to do something or involves somebody else I always try and get that conversation done as soon as I can to say look you know I will never breach your confidence but if there are things that worry me then I may have to do something about that and again that's absolutely okay because a person will thank you for it afterwards let people know that I'm here and we're gonna do this together so if that means right if me and you we're going to make an appointment at the GP we'll go together and we'll do this together and it's that about it's about being in the mud together you have to keep your own emotional batteries charged up because when then drained out you can't help anybody else and you struggle to function let alone just trying to look after yourself the plane and the oxygen mask put your oxygen mask on first uh self-care is is the number one priority I think so I don't think you can actually fail and that's something that I would really push to everyone who's helping someone with mental health struggles is you haven't failed you cannot fail but you can do something trust again trust your instincts be yourself the right thing is probably what you first felt and that could have been sitting and listening just nodding or it could have been responding tell me more about that so not too over worry not to overthink but there is support out there there are people that will listen to you and give you advice and guidance and it's important to talk oh my God it's so important to talk very important to talk we we had most chats with lovely man you know it's yeah it's good to it's good to have someone like Josh in my life it makes my life better [Music] thank you [Music]
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Thanks god am not alone on this shit that want to take my life
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I have been mentally ill for 40 years through external events and have had years of NHS therapy to survive, all these things are fantastic but they all start in the middle of healing. The very first moment of the very first day of healing is the moment you recognise someone can see you, but being seen is terrifying because now you are vulnerable and convinced the person seeing you thinks you are right about how you perceive your social value as worthless. It is that moment that defines the entire future relationship with a healer, if the healer simply exists in the same space for 5 minutes with very ordinary non-verbal communication the sufferer will start to overcome their internalised trauma because they are unable to perceive any threat, this can be repeated until non-verbal curiosity starts to pique the sufferer, this then leads to an opportunity for a sharing to take place with as simple a thing as a thermos of coffee being offered because you have a spare cup.
Great tips !
Just been totally shut out by a friend he's obviously struggling with something but it's so ouout of character in 15 years he's never been like this only thing his nan is ill but he's never been upset about other family members passing he was sad but dealt with it as well as he could but literally 2 days ago just went absolutely off the rails and all I said was are you OK your not yourself. And bang let rip brutal and won't speak to me I've given it a few days and texted but nothing v, just wanted to help my m8 it's so not him..
My mental health journey has been long and some don’t understand. I know they try their best especially my mom. I have found a way to heal, and I am trying really hard. It’s hard when you feel like you are just living, going through the motions. That’s where I’ve been. I was at a breaking point, thought no one cared, self harmed, it was really hard. I’m glad that I am a bit better. Not completely. The healing journey isn’t straightforward. It is a daily thing. You can’t expect to be better right away. I think sometimes that’s the what some of our loved ones try to do. Fix it right now. Hope you all in the comments and many more people struggling are on the path to recovery.
Sorry about the rant
My mental health problems started when I lost a close family member. I knew I was struggling and became withdrawn. About 2 years later I learnt to manage my depression and now it's still there but under my control.
More people need to note this. In my experience sadly when the metal health is tough friends just dissappear off the radar. But good thing is with that even though it hurts, it filters out the people who dont really care
Thank you, honestly I myself am not struggling, but I do have a friend that I’m trying to help as much as I can, I watched this video on advice as to what to do and say for them. I think I was just worried that I would eventually say the wrong thing and just make it worse for them. This video really helped me thank you!
your pills are bull shit your care is bull shit ben off pills for 2 years im free not your pills sucks
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Sometimes, just being there to listen can make a world of difference. Compassion and patience go a long way. 💛🤝
We listen and help all the ones we love which can be exhausting, who looks after us?
I just tend to not talk at all I keep all my talk minimal I struggle with holding conversations I hate it but it feels like a block 24/7 0:34 this guy is 100% SPOT ON
My advice as someone who suffers with poor mental health my advice is to leave them alone. My mental health is something I don't discuss with anyone.
Be approachable not pushy, if your a judgy person, you are not safe to them. Have lots of patience. Listen and ask their permission to express your opinion. Dont treat them like they are crazy.
No hope for mental illnesses….patients and their families.
Jesus loves you, peace.
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Ask twice if people are ok is the key.
Mental health is about "overload"… is about not being able to manage "weight/pressure"… in any case, people need to be able to release & decompress…. therefore, DONT DO ANYTHING!!!, people are not machines that can be fixed replacing parts… they need CONTAINMENT, and SAFETY to get out of the "edge".
Just BE THERE, for them, and understand….you'll have to TAKE from them (listening, being patient, don't force trough silence, etc)
Mental and emotional recovery is much slower than the physical. HOWEVER, don't do, 2 things … Don't proyect your own strength on them (you'll become frustrated and impatient), & don't become an "emotional crutch".
Insightful tips. Thank you for sharing.
Seek professional help.
Actively listen and remember that one aize doesn't fit all👌
Should believing in God be considered a mental illness. Fitting all the characteristics of fantasy and fiction?
I love this video! Wonderful, thank you for sharing. Based on my experience, this advice is accurate and useful for all of us who want to help and guide others while recovering.
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I was in the middle of a mental breakdown in this video helped me I don't know why but it did so thank you so much for being helpful and putting my pain into words that I could never describe before
This is such a joke. 99% of all mental problems come from a bad diet. Bad diet leads to bad environments, and then we have diseases that these so called specialists like to make super complicated. But really all that people need to do is eat/drink right so they can sleep right. And then of course one needs to be in a job where one is truly happy. But all of this will naturally come to you once you have done the diet 100% right. People just want a pill to take together with an excuse that they cannot be changed because they are just unlucky.
The whole system is a joke, they don´t serve patients. They serve customers. And especially psychiatrists they are not needed at all. Psychologist maybe, doctors a hell of a lot more.
But people need to wake up and understand that they cannot live in the City and be happy wearing plastic clothes and having deodorants on them while not drinking water or getting fresh air and getting a regular massage.
We are living creatures, not machines. And so the only problem is the lifestyle, not any scientific or psychiatric point of view.
Also, no doctor is telling their the true secret to recovering so you don´t need them. And that is to ONLY eat your 1-3 meals in a 6 hour window per day circa 10am to 4pm. That makes everybodies immune system like 2-3x stronger, that is one of the biggest secrets in this world to getting over all kinds of physical/mental problems.
Conclusion: our diet regulates our mood/feelings so that everything in life gets better. It is the cement our life is built on. People don't just have a feeling or depression that is hurting them, what I described is the solution, it is the thing creating the mental/physical viewpoint that we hold to be real, it is just hard to break the locked environments that we live in, in order to do what I suggested.
Spread the message in order to create better lives for people!
Don't give up on them they need you more than you will ever know. There when I needed a ferind
I've been like this for 35 years I used to go to group therapy that helped but my dad became ill and I gave it up I wish I could find friends I find it hard to reach out and ask for help just fed up can't find happiness anywhere it takes me ages to write then I just get bored it's like talking to a wall
thank you
How can i get unpaid therapy ?
For me what helps is if you encounter physical thought make it mental, it is easier to get over. For example if you see heavy object you can always use mental ability to imagine this object. There are different type of thoughts, physical thoughts can not be overcome without making thought mental. It is IMPOSSIBLE!!
No one listens until they hear what they want to hear! Anything else they don't care
I dont want to be here anymore but i have family im dieing inside and just want to leave this earth bit dont want to hurt anyone 😢
i am only coz no one is going through mental health it is just me i am forcing myself to eat and drink today and yesterday i can't have a support group i have imessaged only
i have mental health i am missing my cat and dog so much they are in a foster home i am so sorry it is all my fault i have no one to reach out to i am in hospaitl coz i had a mental breakdown i am in hospital
You’ll never see Americans in stories like this
(FACTS OVA FEELINGS). In psychology twodey a mental illness is diagnosed on the basis of symptoms but if eu look deep into those symptoms they r really just indications of unsafety and adaptive strategies that a person is using in order to try to self-preserve wen faced with that unsafety
I wish I could get help.
No one has ever been there for me for my mental illness not even after trying to take my own life. It just leaves a hollow place in your soul where no one can be relied on or seen as posseing huamanity. When I was a guitar prodigy or star athlete with blonde hair and straight As everyone loved me in my family. The year I got sick in retrospect I was abused neglected alrgoifg at the time I didn’t know what it was
I have read every comment on this video. I hope that helps.
I have scihzoprehena bipolar anxiety OCD stress my brother calls me a crack baby
I have scihzoprehena bipolar anxiety OCD stress my brother calls me a crack baby
As a person who has mental health issues i believe that mental illness is a family health issue and that every one in the whole entire family should be interviewed by a series of news crews to tell how they have helped heal the people that they love with understanding about a person with mental illness as a upcoming TV show about helping there loved ones with mental illness as a support group of a global awareness of the people who have mental health issues and mental illness
I am the most insignificant person in the earth. It feels impossible to get proper attention from someone even in my family. I feel like I have been toxic to myself and to others. I feel like I dont deserve anything. I feel like every word that comes out from my nouth is a utter of a over reacting behavior. It is terribly unfair for me. I feel like commiting suicide in an easy way i feel like I dont want to fight my battles anymore it just feels like putting out fires in a forest fire.
It is almost impossible for me to get mutual validation from one single person for a fixed period of time.